The challenge of moving with children


By Michelle Gillespie

Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage

Michelle Gillespie, Realtor Direct Line: 508-934-9818, [email protected] or

School buses are back on the roads – a sure sign of fall. But even though school has begun, families are still moving throughout the fall real estate season of September and October.

Moving into a new home brings with it a lot of emotions, particularly for families moving with children. Excitement and enthusiasm are coupled with anxiety and apprehension as to whether children will take to the new home and neighborhood. Carefully preparing children for the move, both practically and psychologically, will help ease the transition and make the process smoother and more enjoyable for the entire family.

I have been helping families move for years and offer the following advice on how to make sure children of all ages cope with the home buying process and the big move.

Finding a New Home

Communicate. Maintain an open dialogue with children about the decision to move to a new house. Engaging them at the beginning of the process will give them time to get used to the idea and ultimately accept the change. Explain the reasons behind the move, and answer questions truthfully. However, early discussion does not mean it is necessary to bring them to every single home being considered, especially very young children. Once the choices have been narrowed down to perhaps two or three, bring them to the homes so they can begin to feel familiar with new surroundings.

Listen. Listening to what children are saying about the move is just as important as talking to them about it. By paying close attention to their statements and reactions, parents can alleviate any fears. This is especially important for school-age children and teenagers who may be reluctant to leave their friends and classmates. Avoid being dismissive of their social concerns; acknowledge them and remind them about the new opportunities that await them. Focusing on the positives of the move may help settle down anxious children.

Explore. After deciding on a new home, I can help your family discover their new neighborhood by showing you the playgrounds, community centers, recreation areas and other areas important to the children that help make the environment seem more familiar.

Moving In

Comfort. Pack up the children's rooms last to minimize disruption. The longer they feel secure in their own rooms, the easier the transition will be. Then, set up their new bedrooms first so they feel like they'se back in familiar surroundings. And do not completely redecorate the children's rooms in the new home; maintain continuity so the children feel secure. It is very important to return to normal routines as quickly as possible, so set up the kitchen second. Try to serve meals at the same times as before, so there is not too much change all at once.

Engage. Show the children all the other rooms in the new home and let them participate to a degree in decorating decision-making. By accepting input on decoration, parents will make their children feel like they are part of the process.

Surprise. Arrange for special treats to be waiting for everyone at the new house. New games or new cuddly friends will keep the children busy during unpacking and make the first memory of the new house a pleasant one.

Let Me Help

I have many years of experience helping families move, and I have a family of my own, so I understand the unique challenges involved in moving your family.

If you are thinking of buying a new home, and would like to discuss the best approach for an easy transition, call me, Michelle Gillespie, at 508-934-9818 or e-mail [email protected] Visit my website at for more information.