Yarmouth Port – Richard “Rick” de Mello, PE, formerly of Hudson and Marlborough, died at Mass General Hospital on Tuesday, May 3, 2022 in the arms of his loving wife, Julienne (Remie).
Rick was born in Marlborough, son of the late Peter George de Mello Sr. and Alice Elizabeth (Avery). He was raised in Hudson and Marlborough but eventually moved to Cape Cod where he served as the Town Engineer for the Town of Yarmouth for over 30 years, where he continued to work part time after his retirement.
Rick graduated with the class of 1970 at Hudson High School, and had many life-long friends. He graduated from Northeast University top in his class with an undergraduate in civil and environmental engineering and went on to Stanford University in California where he earned his Master’s degree as a professional engineer.
Rick had a huge heart, a warm smile, a healing hug, a very attentive nature and a wonderful sense of humor. He could light up any room with his loving energy. He got great pleasure in teasing the waitresses at his favorite local café’s and always made sure he made up for it by over tipping. He enjoyed life and lived it to the fullest and was happiest when he was helping others or simply casting a lure in a pond.
Among the many passions and talents Rick was blessed with, fishing, gardening, teaching reiki and refinishing antique furniture brought him great joy. He enjoyed donating his time at various locations in the community including Cape Cod Museum of Natural History, Bay to Sound Neighbors, and served the last 10 years of his life as a VNA Hospice of Cape Cod volunteer where he taught and provided reiki to nurses and staff, as well as reiki and respite to patients and caregivers.
He is predeceased by his brother Wayne deMello and sister Diane “DeeDee” Comeau. Along with his wife, Julienne, Rick is survived by his brothers Peter deMello (Judy) of Keene NH and Robert deMello (Deb) of Millis, MA; his step-children, Heidi, Carrie (Steven) and Kimberly Schoener, step-grandchildren Christopher, Lindsay and Liam Schoener of Yarmouth, Mother in Law, Maureen Remie of Centerville MA and Tarpon Springs, FL, Sister in law, Michelle Goulding of Dennis, MA, Brothers in law, Eugene Remie Jr. (Carolyn) of Marstons Mills, MA Peter Remie (Gem) of Clearwater, FL, and Matthew Remie (Jennifer) of Centerville, MA; and many nieces and nephews.
A special thank you to all of our neighbors, friends and family who supported us through Rick’s illness by giving us rides, making meals, sending cards and offering prayers. We could not have done this without you. Thank you to the Yarmouth DPW department for their ongoing support, to the Yarmouth Fire department EMTs for safely bringing Rick to CCH many an evening over the last year and a half, to Dr. Hannah Yamin and staff at Hematology and Oncology of Cape Cod in Falmouth, the doctors, nurses, social workers and palliative care unit at Mass General as well as all the other medical staff at Falmouth Hospital, Cape Cod Hospital, Beth-Israel Boston, Brigham and Women’s, and VNA of Cape Cod – all of whom worked with compassion to treat and care for Rick. Additional thanks to Katie and Doug at Bartlett Funeral Home in Plymouth for their compassionate help during this difficult time.
There will be no visiting hours. Friends and family are encouraged to attend a garden memorial service at Saint Mary’s Episcopal Church, 3055 Route 6A, Barnstable MA at 2pm on Friday, June 10th followed by a reception.
In lieu of flowers, please consider sending a donation in Rick’s memory to the Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation, 5526 West 13400 South, #510 Herriman, Utah 84096 (cholangiocarcinoma.org) or VNA Hospice of Cape Cod, 434 MA-134 G1, South Dennis MA 02660 or to Saint Mary’s Episcopal Church, whose church community offered immense support to us.
Obituary lovingly written by the family of Richard deMello